Planning An Alternative Funeral? Nine Things You Need To Know

Articles like this are like honey for DIY-ers and those who are very hands-on. They boost the spirits and make you feel as if you can make it through grandma's death because you're in control of the situation. This is great. This is good! Unfortunately, most people do not have the particular advantage that going this route needs... advance notice of the death. The majority of people are completely blindsided by death and its crappy timing. And a huge number of people are too crippled with grief, pain, guilt, and plain sadness to actually achieve anything meaningful. My advice: pay heed to #3 in the article... appointing a funeral director who will listen.
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"It's not a matter of refusing to pay."

Funeral Homes Can Be Caught In the Middle of Family Conflicts
"Barret Nelson, a funeral director for more than 40 years, said those tricky situations have become more common as families splinter and become distant. The death of a parent forces estranged siblings to collaborate in making decisions about funerals and burial or cremation, and the process does not always go smoothly."

Great article on some of the everyday issues that funeral homes and funeral directors deal with. When I hear some families complain that it took longer than three days after the date of death to receive the urn back, these are some of the issues going on behind the scenes. Family disagreements are typically just the tip of the problematic iceberg.